I was only 14 years old when I lost my mom. She was ill, and we knew that everything would end like that.

I was the older child, and I remember everything better, but I had to put up with the so-called new mom, who my papa married to 4 years after my mom had died.

I had an older brother and sister younger than me, and I understand my father, he definitely couldn’t take care about us alone. But I couldn’t even call my papa’s second wife mama. She didn’t deserve it.

And now I’m already engaged. I enjoy meeting my mother-in-law, we have a very good relationship, I respect and love her very much. But I can’t call her mom. She is very upset with it and yesterday she told me, that she didn’t believe that my story was the reason that I didn’t call her mom. She thought that I just found a good way to avoid calling her mom.

And now I don’t know what to do. I don’t want my future husband to feel bad about him, but I definitely can’t accept his mother as my mother either. Please advise how I should behave.